“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge – that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” – Ephesians 4:16-19
It’s difficult to write about what’s truly on my heart this week. I was planning to write about Rachel Hollis’ #Last90Days challenge since it starts today and I’m totally committing to it but I think the Lord has other plans for this post….
Last week I believe we witnessed a historical moment in my country. I am not super comfortable discussing politics or opening myself up to the attacks that could come as a result of my opinion but it is what is weighing most heavily on my heart right now. I am trying to create a space that is raw and authentic so if I close myself and my opinions off than I’m not living my truth out loud the way I had hoped to do.
My takeaway from the Kavanaugh/Ford situation is this (and particularly other mamas of boys please pay attention)….no man is safe in this current environment. There is nothing that can prevent someone from destroying your family, your career, your reputation or even your life for any reason whatsoever. It doesn’t matter what political side you are on – you can’t play Switzerland – and there will always be someone who opposes what you believe in or simply doesn’t like you for whatever reason. There is no “due process” when it comes to public opinion and in case you missed it the first time NO MAN IS SAFE.
I am talking about your fathers, your husbands, and your sons.
Ryker turns three this coming weekend and I am consumed with how do I prepare him for this world we are living in.
Now I know that some of you will take this the wrong way, and so I will try my best to explain. First of all, you should know that years ago, I was drugged and raped. I know for certain one person who was involved but fear that it may have been more than one. I never reported what happened to me or even shared the nightmare with my friends. So I have so much respect for those who have the courage to speak out. And it is almost impossible to have listened to or watched Dr. Ford’s interview and not feel strongly that she was the victim of sexual assault.
However, I also feel strongly that she has been manipulated for political advantage in the most shameful and shameless way. If you think that this situation has anything to do with Kavanaugh’s qualifications for being a Supreme Court Justice, I urge you to look closer.
It is NOT okay that one in ten women has suffered a sexual assault. But it is also not okay to use this current hot-button topic or the #metoo movement as a means to manipulate political gain. We can do better than this.
If the 2016 election taught me anything, it was that we have HORRIBLE choices when it comes to our elected officials. For many of us, the 2016 presidential election was about voting not for who you believed in the most but rather voting for the opponent of the candidate you cared for the least (okay that statement was a little confusing….sorry!) But what I’ve noticed in the last couple of years since Trump was elected, is that people who I love, admire and respect are so angry about Trump in office that they are just continuously sharing and spewing propaganda that is filled often with lies and sometimes with outright hate.
It’s to the point where attacking each other for having different viewpoints – friends or strangers on the Internet – is becoming the “norm” of our culture. We are seeing a rise in young people committing suicide as a result of cyber-bullying and we’re all looking around like we don’t understand why or where it’s coming from. WAKE UP PEOPLE IT IS COMING FROM US!!!
Let’s assume that Dr. Ford’s accusations of Kavanaugh are true because I for one believe that they are her truth….she certainly has the right to choose to hold on to the anger and hatred that may have stemmed from that situation. But I ask you to think about this…how are the rest of us personally impacted? You can certainly make the choice for yourself that a horrible action that someone took 34 years ago could disqualify them from being an effective Supreme Court Justice but does that action deserve your unadulterated hatred? You could disagree with decisions he’s made in his career as a judge, or his demeanor could rub you the wrong way but the types of memes, articles, posts, misleading and often very wrong analogies, are more a reflection of YOU my friend, than of him.
It feels like we are at war with one another on so many levels right now….women v. men, color v. white, Democrats v. Republicans, middle country v. coasts, rich v. poor….and the casualties of these wars continue to add up. I don’t know how we can turn this around but what I do know is that we have the power to stop adding fuel to the fire of hate. We can disagree with other people and still be respectful about it. And just because the person on the other side of whatever line you’ve drawn isn’t giving you the common courtesy of respect you can choose not to stoop down to their level.
I don’t expect that everyone reading this is going to be a believer in Jesus but if you are reading this and you are, let me remind you that the two most important things are (1) LOVE GOD and (2) LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR. God knows that we can’t always avoid conflict but we can make the choice to treat others with love and kindness – even when we disagree with them.
You can’t control what others do or who they elect but you absolutely can control your reaction to it. And by no means am I saying don’t fight for what you believe in or for who you want to represent you politically or otherwise, but I am saying be aware of how you are fighting and if your method at any given time is one that is motivated by God or by the Enemy. Here’s a thought, maybe instead of focusing energy that shares and contributes to the bashing of someone, why not share only positive messages about those you do believe in and can get behind. You’re not very likely to convince me (or anyone for that matter) that my view is wrong by bashing me or it. But if you can show me that your way is better through positivity I for one will be way more likely to listen.
It’s time for us to stop normalizing the lies and the hate.
What I’m Reading: Present-Over-Perfect
Hebrews with She Reads Truth
What I’m Watching: Survivor (episode 1 actually had me in tears I felt so bad for the guy who had to leave the show)
What I’m Praying About: Praying for my country.